From the office of Bob Grant, LPC
Did you know that there's a certain "window of time" after a breakup? There's a golden opportunity to bring your love back.
You see, it's not what "caused" the breakup that matters so much as what happens AFTER the breakup.
When you and he first met, things went so well. You were convinced he was captivated by you - maybe even falling in love with you.
But suddenly, just when you started feeling more secure than ever, something changed with him. He seemed to lose interest in you.
You felt abandoned - and you start asking yourself question after question.
"What changed? Why?"
"Did I do something wrong?"
You spend all your time replaying your last conversation in your mind over and over... and thinking about what happened during your last encounter with him, looking for clues about what might have led to your breakup.
You say to yourself, "If only I could understand why he left me, I could fix it."
Then, when you can't find anything you did wrong, you begin to think the problem might be HIM.
"Maybe he has intimacy issues."
"Maybe he's met someone else."
Then, you might even consult with your friends, and together, you speculate about why he suddenly seems indifferent and distant.
You might even devise all kinds of ways to put yourself in his path or to get him to call you -- but nothing works.
Then, you're faced with the agonizing decision ... do you go on hopelessly wishing he'll come back to you, while feeling hurt and broken-hearted -- or just forget about him and chalk him up as "the man who got away?"
If you're experiencing the above scenario...
..... or you just want to prevent it from happening to you in the future
-- this may be the most important article you'll ever read!
When a man leaves a relationship, and the woman wonders where she went wrong, and tries desperately to get him back, that's actually a common pattern I've seen all too often in man-woman relationships.
causes a lot of pain and distress - but the good news is that there's an easy solution to this problem!
In the next 5 minutes, you'll discover ...
The reasons why a man suddenly loses interest in having a relationship with you, even if he was previously very much into you
How your natural tendencies as a woman often contribute to the breakup -- and what you can do to avoid sabotaging your reconciliation efforts;
The number-one mistake women make when trying to get their man back; and
My step-by-step game plan -- including techniques that have been used for centuries to rekindle relationships. This irresistible game plan is virtually guaranteed to soften your ex-boyfriend's (or ex-husband's) heart and create a deeper bond between the two of you that paves the way to re-establishing your relationship.
A Word For Word Script - 9 Powerful Words
I'll even reveal to you my word-for-word script -- 9 incredibly powerful words you can say to your man that will make him realize he simply couldn't bear to lose you!
I urge you to adopt my game plan as soon as possible. Don't wait until your man has moved on in his life without you and shut you out of his heart forever. You must strike while the iron's hot. When you follow my game plan exactly as prescribed, it is highly likely that he'll come running back to you.
A Man's Change of Heart
A client I will call Charlene to protect her privacy...
She's been dating a man named Martin for 6 months. Charlene is 43 and has 4 children.
Their relationship is going beautifully for a few months when, out of the blue, Martin tells her that he isn't ready to get married -- and he stops seeing her.
Charlene was devastated, and she broke into tears telling me her story.
So I show her my proven system to get Martin back -- and she begins it right away.
At first, nothing happens. Charlene thinks the system isn't working -- but she sticks to the system anyway!
Seven months later, Martin proposes to her - and 3 months later, they marry.
If you ask Martin what changed his heart, he'd never be able to say.
But Charlene and I know - it's "the system"!
Why They Call Me the "Relationship Doctor"
My name is Bob Grant. I'm a Licensed Professional Counselor, therapist, and relationship coach with over 20 years of successful practice. I'm also the author of The Woman Men Adore ... And Never Want to Leave (2005).
People call me "The Relationship Doctor" because I have the prescription for finding love, keeping passion alive, and reigniting relationships that have lost their spark.
The majority of my clients are women -- and one of the top relationship problems they've brought to my attention is this: The man in their life has lost interest in them and they want to know how to get him back.
Luckily, I have an effective remedy based not only on real-life feedback from hundreds of my real-life female clients, but also from time-tested strategies and techniques I've developed over the years which, when properly implemented, are most difficult for a man to resist!
But before I reveal the "remedy" -- or the absolute best game plan to bring back your man -- I'm going to ask you to take part in the fun and eye-opening 7-second pop quiz below.
If a man with whom you've recently had a good relationship suddenly loses interest in you -- and you sense that he's beginning to pull away from you -- which of the following frequently used strategies do you think is the best thing you can do to get him back?
A. Remind him of all the good times you've had together, and what you think went wrong in your relationship, and to make your relationship better.
B. Tell him how you feel. Express your heartfelt emotions and get him to open up and talk about his feelings
C. Give him gifts and shower him with sweetness and love -- so he'll realize what he's missing by not having you in his life
D. Tell him "No one will ever love you as much as I do."
The correct answer is none of them!
That's right -- none of the above strategies work, at least not for long.
Here's the Mistake Many Women Make When Trying to Get Their Man Back
In over 20 years that I've been a therapist and relationship coach, I've found that most women do not know how to win back a man who has lost interest in them. They almost always go about it the wrong way!
By far, the most common mistake a woman makes when trying to get a man back is this:
Women use strategies that work on women - but not on men.
Let me explain.
Men respond to things differently than women -- and they're not hardwired to understand feelings the way women are. That's why talking about your feelings -- and getting him to talk about his feelings -- rarely works.
Writing him a letter is also a waste of time because words do not have the same effect on a man that they have on a woman -- no matter how wonderful your words are and how beautiful the sentiments behind those words.
Most women think that words are going to tug at a man's heart strings, and make him fall to his knees begging for the woman to take him back. Let me be blunt: They don't.
Words are for women. While it might make you feel good that you've written the most inspiring letter in the world, your letter won't have much of an impact on a man. Period.
Giving him gifts and showering him with sweetness and love seldom work either because men don't flow as well in the emotional realm as women do.
You simply cannot flood a man's heart with emotions to win him back the way you can a woman's.
The Guy Didn't Know What Hit Him!
True story - with all names and identifying details changed.
Heather started dating a guy named Greg. She didn't know that Greg was also dating 2 other women besides her.
One day, Greg tells her up front about the other women -- and Heather is shocked and dismayed, because she's been dating him exclusively and thought the exclusivity was mutual.
Not knowing what else to do, she gives him an ultimatum, "You have to choose -- it's either them or me."
He replies that he isn't ready to date her exclusively. He then stops seeing her altogether.
This is an example of not knowing how or when to give an ultimatum -- that's why it backfired on her.
So then I show Heather my proven system and she immediately begins puts the system into practice.
For 4 weeks, nothing happens. Greg doesn't even call her -- and that makes her think he probably just wants to play the field, and doesn't want to be tied down to one woman.
On the 5th week, he calls and says, "I've been thinking about you."
Greg says he wants to know how she's doing, and just wants to talk -- without particularly wanting to get back together with her.
Little does Greg know that because of our game plan, Heather is completely prepared for this call.
She now knows EXACTLY what to say to Greg and how to say it.
Within a month of working the my "system," Greg asks Heather to go out with him.
Soon after their date, Greg stops seeing the other 2 women -- and decides to have a relationship with Heather exclusively.
Heather has captured Greg's heart -- and he doesn't know what hit him!
Why Do Most Strategies for Getting a Man Back Fail Miserably?
Because they fail to identify or address the root cause of why your man left you or lost interest in the first place. So even if you do manage to get your man back using one of the common ploys, it will be temporary at best because the cause of your breakup would remain unresolved.
What complicates the problem is that men are not usually willing to open up about their feelings long enough for you to figure out what it was that caused them to leave. And oftentimes they may not even be aware of the underlying reason why they habitually try to escape from relationships that are going well.
When women make "educated guesses" as to what caused their man to break up with them, more often than not, they guess wrong -- and so they waste all their time trying to fix the wrong thing -- and never get anywhere.
So what's a woman to do?
I'll get to that in a moment. But first, here's what you should not do.
WARNING: Beware of Untrained Relationship Coaches and Relationship Resources that Dispense Advice of Dubious Value
There are several books -- not to mention dozens of articles in women's magazines -- about how to get your man back or how to rekindle an old romance. There are even more self-proclaimed "relationship coaches" who claim they can help you with your relationship problems. Whatever you do, don't fall for the following:
Relationship Books that are not Gender-Specific -- Books that give generic advice for both men and women seeking to rekindle relationships with their ex-girlfriend or ex-boyfriend are seldom effective, because what works on women does not work on men -- and vice versa. Most available resources tend to be tilted in favor of helping men get their woman back.
Books, Magazine Articles or Relationship Advice Based on Trickery. Far too many books, magazine articles and relationship advisors show you how to "trick" a man into submission by using all sorts of artifice -- and of course, the old stand-by, sex.
In my opinion, these do more harm than good. Trickery could work in the short-term, and it may help you get your man back temporarily, but it won't enable you to sustain the relationship -- you're likely to lose your man again down the line because the device used to get him back was based on shallow motivations instead of a deep understanding of men.
Advice Given by Untrained or Inexperienced Relationship Coaches
There's been a recent proliferation of "relationship coaches" who, after having completed a mere 12 to 48 hours of life coach training, masquerade as relationship experts.
When you take advice from such untrained people who resort to guesswork instead of extensive real-life experience, you run the risk of making critical mistakes that could jeopardize your chances of ever getting your man back.
So now that you know what not to do, what should you do?
My private relationship counseling practice has enabled me to develop powerful strategies for helping couples rekindle relationships -- including a step-by-step system to help women get their man back. I truly want to share this game plan with more than just the clients who are able to travel to my office in Georgia to sit down with me face-to-face. I also want to help those who can't afford my counseling services ($125/hour).
So I devised a way that will enable you to gain immediate access to my system, and let you benefit from my experience without you having to shell out hundreds of dollars in hourly fees -- and without leaving the comfort of your own home or office.
My system is titled "How Can I Get Him Back." Here's a sneak peek at some of the nuggets it contains:
You're About To Discover
How to tap into a man's pain, which holds the secret to reaching his heart (see page 13)
The 9 words you can say to your man that will make him realize he simply can't bear to lose you -- this last-ditch tactic is based on one of the most powerful psychological motivators in the world! (see page 68)
When do your acts of kindness, empathy, generosity, graciousness and taking pain away come across to a man as being controlling -- instead of being perceived as praiseworthy intentions? (see pages 10-11)
How to get what you really want in a man -- a simple exercise that takes all the guesswork out of determining if the man you want back is good for you -- or worth all the trouble to get him back (see pages 45-50)
How to use your feminine attributes to make yourself a "safe" person in whom he can confide his fears and inner pain so that you can finally discover the real reason he escapes from relationships -- and ultimately, make him want to get back with you; (see page 86)
Why a man's imagination is the best thing you have going for you -- and how to use it to make him crave to be with you again. (see pages 60-61)
How to identify signals in a man's voice that tell you his guard is down, he's willing to let you get closer to him, and it's the best time to talk about the previous issues in your relationship (see page 64)
What if he doesn't call you? How to initiate contact with a man in a demure and classy way -- without appearing too forward or desperate, or running the risk of being regarded a stalker. (see page 66-69)
How to affect a man on an emotional level to maximize the chances of rekindling your relationship with him (see page 66)
What you must do in order to get the attention of your ex -- and how to determine what will cause him to want to be with you again. (see page 44)
How to show a man you care about him without coming across as being too needy, or emotionally "high-maintenance" -- which could backfire on you and cause your man to back off. Also, how to tell when a man has reached the threshold of giving, and is overwhelmed by your needs that he feels the need to escape. (see page 31)
How to know if your man has unresolved issues which persist even when you're doing everything right in a relationship -- and how to know if those issues can be resolved, of if you need to give him up as a lost cause (see pages 35-36)
WARNING: Your acts of kindness and generosity may be giving him the impression that you're a woman with low self-esteem, or one who's trying too hard to please him. How to know when you're giving too much (see page 30)
The top 3 reasons why a man chooses to end his relationship with a woman -- the sooner you understand these reasons, the sooner you can get him back, and prevent the same mistakes from happening again (see page 41)
How to influence and shape your man's opinion of you -- and get him to see you as being more beautiful and more valuable, not someone who can be taken for granted (see page 74-76)
The Art of Perfect Timing -- How to create the perfect environment and time to give your man relationship-enhancing advice or insights at the precise moment he is ready to hear it -- so as not to drive him further away (see pages 21-22)
Why insisting on a commitment from a man is one of the best things you can do for him -- whether he thinks it's a good idea or not (see page 28)
How to differentiate between the insight problems and motivation problems involved in your breakup, and how to deal with each type correctly (see pages 20-22)
How to avoid putting your man on the defensive with your well-meaning opinions (see page 20)
How to understand what's really going on inside a man's heart in order to make him warm up to the idea of reconciling with you -- this is something he might not even be aware of, or he's trying to avoid. (see page 6)
What causes women to have "blind spots" -- and make them clueless as to what men want and what drives men away. (see page 10)
How to avoid continually implementing strategies just because they're familiar to you -- in favor of implementing the most effective system for getting him back (see pages 11-12)
How to avoid the knee-jerk actions that your fears compel you to do -- even though those actions may make perfect sense -- because they're usually the least effective ways of getting your man back. (see page 13)
How to know how much you should be giving to your man -- too little and he won't know how much you care about him; too much and he is going to feel like you are competing with him (see page 14)
How to get your man back by tapping into the very thing that caused him to date you in the first place. (see pages 14-15)
...and much more!
I've always found it quite amazing to observe how dramatically a woman's life changes when she has the enduring devotion of the man she wants.
In this regard, I'd like to ask you this:
How would the quality of your life change when you get your man back? How overjoyed would you be when you realize you have the power to keep your man devoted to you forever?
What price can you put on not wasting any more time trying ineffective ways to get your man back -- but instead having a step-by-step game plan to effortlessly magnetize him back into your life -- even if there are other women vying for his attention?
What is the value of never feeling helpless, hurt or broken-hearted if your man suddenly loses interest -- but instead having the know-how to reignite the spark in his heart, create a deeper bond with him and re-establish a stronger and enduring relationship?
How delighted would you feel when you realize that you never have to let a man slip through your fingers again -- or watch him walk out of your life without being able to do anything about it?
Clearly, most women regard the ability to win back a man's heart as a priceless skill -- one that's worth a small fortune in life-changing benefits not only for themselves but also the female friends and relatives they could potentially help once they've learned the system.
What is it worth to you?
$3,000? $2,000? $1,000?
Your investment in this system is just a small fraction of the $125 that I charge for a 45-minute counseling session, in which I could cover only a tiny part of what my system contains!
You would have to schedule several counseling sessions with me and pay hundreds of dollars in hourly fees to get all the eye-opening content you'll find in How Can I Get Him Back.
What's more, keep in mind that my special system for getting your man back is not available elsewhere.
This System is Worth Its Weight in Gold!
"Wow, Bob Grant's book, How Can I Get Him Back, really opened my eyes to the truth about men. I used to think that all men generally have a love-'em-and-leave-'em attitude when it comes to dating women -- and that there was nothing I could do to make a man faithful to me. This book reveals an important concept about how to make a man regard me as someone of great value -- someone who's worth devoting his singular attention to.
"I'm forever grateful for this priceless information which I know will serve me for life.
"I appreciate this book even more because ever since I read it, I've been sharing what I learned from it with friends and female members of my family who wanted to get their boyfriends back.
"I feel like a female Dr. Phil dispensing expert advice to women. This book is worth its weight in gold!" -- Kristin Bennett, Los Angeles, California
The game plan I reveal in How Can I Get Him Back is simple enough for anyone to implement on their own. However, when you take How Can I Get Him Back for a risk-free trial it is guaranteed.
My Zero-Risk, Iron-Clad, 100% "This is Going to Work -- or You Get Your Money Back" Guarantee
I am so confident that you'll be absolutely thrilled with the step-by-step game plan I reveal in How Can I Get Him Back that you'll only have one regret -- and that is this: Not having had this valuable resource years ago!
You'll realize that you could have used this system in all your relationships with guys over the years -- all the way back to your high school days when you started having relationship challenges with boys! How many guys did you let slip through your fingers -- and how many days have you spent crying because a guy left you and you didn't know how to get him back?
When you get your hands on How Can I Get Him Back, you'll feel secure knowing that you finally have the secret to having a successful relationship with a man. But don't take my word for it. Try the step-by-step game plan and put it to the test. All I ask is that you implement the system -- and stick to it even if you don't see anything happening at first. When you start seeing results, continue implementing it so that you can keep your man for good.
If you follow my system exactly and it doesn't do for you what I promised, simply send me an e-mail within 7 weeks of your purchase, and I'll refund your entire purchase price. NO QUESTIONS ASKED! The only requirement is that you give it a fair try. Don't just skim over How Can I Get Him Back without implementing these strategies. You owe it to yourself to see how amazing this system is, when you follow it to the letter.
You Could Lose So Much -- Especially Your Man
Since you are reading this, I know you're interested in getting your man back -- or maybe helping a friend bring her man back.
I also know that in your life, you and your friends have probably known a lot of men who suddenly leave a relationship that seems to be going quite well. And you've probably devised all kinds of ploys to get back your men -- and have had little or no success.
If you're one of the lucky women who's never had the experience of suddenly being dumped by a man with whom you were having what you thought was a good relationship -- I can tell you this ...
...sometime in your dating life, you will experience it.
Chances are, you'll experience it more than once. And so will your friends.
That's because it's a relationship pattern that spontaneously shows up simply because men are true to their male nature -- and this often comes into conflict with women who are just being true to their female nature.
Oftentimes, neither the man or the woman is singularly at fault! It's just the eternal battle of the sexes at work!
It's the wise woman who learns how to harmonize (not compromise) with the nature of men -- and eventually triumphs and gets what she wants out of her relationship with a man.
Right now, you have a choice to make. You could either download a copy of How Can I Get Him Back and implement the step-by-step game plan that will not only bring your man back but also keep him devoted to you for good -- or you could remain the same woman with the same relationship challenges you have today, never knowing how much better your life could be if you just learn how to get back your man.
You have everything to gain when you take me up on my 100% risk-free offer today. And you'll have so much to lose if you don't take advantage of this now -- you could lose your man, for starters!
If you're willing to take the chance of losing your man forever by trying ineffective strategies, you're on your own. But if you want my help and my system for bringing him back, I invite you to own How Can I Get Him Back today.
Wishing you successful relationships,
Bob Grant, L.P.C.
P.S. Maybe you've heard of women who have tried every trick in the book to get their man back. I invite you to finally discover the art and science of having a lasting relationship with a man. The system I reveal in How Can I Get Him Back could change your life.
P.P.S. In over 20 years of experience, I've found that having a game plan makes all the difference for my clients getting the results they want. But sometimes, even my own clients, to whom I've shown the game plan, still insist on doing it their own way -- with disastrous results. Consider the following:
Monica, a woman in her early 20's, came to see me because she couldn't figure out what went wrong with her relationship. Her boyfriend, Phil, was wonderfully charming and intoxicatingly romantic. He pursued her with flowers, chocolate and other gifts week after week. He swept her off her feet, and she finally gave in to his advances and said yes to whatever he wanted. Within 2 weeks, he suddenly stopped calling. That's when she came to consult with me.
I revealed to her the game plan to get Phil back -- and she seemed eager to try it. She got excited when he started responding and warming up to her again. That's when she blew it! She let her guard down, and fell back into her old patterns instead of maintaining the plan. Within a month, Phil dumped her and began dating someone else.
This is a classic example of initial success ultimately turning into failure. Even if Monica did get Phil back, she didn't stick to the plan long enough to keep him for good.
Don't waste time getting nowhere. You'll do everything right the first time when you implement the system I reveal to you in How Can I Get Him Back.
"Bob Grant's books are about speaking from your heart in a way that men can receive best. Bob tells you not only 'what to do' and 'how' - he also tells you 'why' this has such a profound effect on your man.
"Imagine taking away the problems and the pressure and any issues hanging over your head or his, and having him free to just love you!
"I tell readers that if you are not reading Bob's books and putting them into practice, your relationship will be inferior to what it could be. Refer to it regularly - we all need to read and reread the top books again and again, on all subjects to do with human relationships. Usually when I re-read a book, I'm wishing I had done this sooner! We hear things and say 'oh I know that' - but we so often forget them when it's 'crunch time' with others."
- Mimi Tanner, author of Man Mistake Eraser - How to Fix It When You've Messed Up With A Man
"Bob... you've done a wonderful job of explaining what it is that makes some women exceptionally attractive from a man's perspective and why most men adore being around these kind of women.
I especially liked Chapter 10, and agree with you that if more couples understood the differences between an Introverted vs. Extroverted personality type, a lot of the misunderstandings between men and women could be avoided.
You can be sure that I'm going to recommend your book to all our current and future clients."
- Jill Montgomery, Professional Matchmaker
"Dear Bob: Thank you for the opportunity to review your book. As a fellow therapist and also a woman, your book provides some interesting insights that I think will be particularly helpful to any woman wanting to gain a better understanding of what men want. I enjoyed reading your book and I am confident that others will too. The best to you!" -- Dr. Reena Sommer, Relationship Consultant, New York Times contributor and author of The Anatomy of An Affair.
"I Wish I Had Known About Bob Grant's Proven Method Years Ago"
"When I found myself single again after being divorced six years ago, I dove into a series of relationships with men that started out strong, but eventually fizzled out. I didn't know what I was doing wrong. I've read dozens of relationship books, but this is the first one that really made me understand men -- and use that understanding to create and sustain a loving relationship, and become a woman that a man loves, cherishes, and never wants to part with.
"I only wish I had known about Bob's proven method years ago. I could have had less heartaches and more fulfilling and enduring relationships. And I might have saved my marriage as well. This book is mandatory reading for all women!"
-- Maria V., Beverly Hills, California
"I was in a sticky situation this weekend with my boyfriend - we have just got back together for the second time to try and make things work.
All was going well but then I lost it on Saturday because something he said or didn't say set me off. I now realize it was all the resentment building up inside me - things which happened in the past that I didn't bring up for fear of being the 'witch' or 'nag' and yet they have been festering inside me all this time.
"This happened just before I started the book you told me about. Of course I called my boyfriend back and 'blew a fuse' to which he became defensive and was at a complete loss as to what was going on with me!
"Before he called me again, I bought Bob Grant's book. I can't tell you how much the book made sense and I used what I had learned in those few hours before I talked to my boyfriend again... and what a difference!!!
"I just wanted to tell you that now I am almost halfway through it now and cannot believe how well it works!
"It works like a charm, so well in fact I was surprised how my boyfriend tried to make things up to me! I followed Bob Grant's advice - to expose my feelings the way he describes ...and again it was great! In fact, my boyfriend has been so affectionate and clingy it's weird!!!!!
"Anyway, I just wanted to say thanks for recommending this book. I would never normally buy things like this from the internet. I am already telling my girlfriends about these techniques and the book.
"Thanks again. -- Kay"
"Dear Mimi, I have been reading your emails for weeks. I immediately ordered Bob Grant's book yesterday and did not put it down.
"I cried. This was the missing link I needed. Why couldn't I have the relationships that other women were enjoying?
"The missing piece of the puzzle is vulnerability and the courage to speak from my heart. Let me tell you how the last 24 hours have changed for me.
1.) I decided I'd wear heels and a skirt today; I wanted to embrace my feminine side. I do walk and act differently when dressed like this! The heads were definitely turning.
2.) I decided to wear makeup and smile more! This makes all the difference in the world in how men notice me.
HOLD IT - Here is the best part!
3.) I went out to lunch with a male friend of mine who likes me but also keeps his distance, probably because I act so hard or guarded. But today, over lunch, he made a comment of me being jealous about a mutual friend's relationship.
"Instead of just burying how that hurt me, and shutting down... instead of being snippy, and short with him to punish him for saying that... I did something different. I spoke from my heart.
"I lowered my eyes, and in a soft, slow voice I said, 'You know, that really hurt my feelings. I'm not jealous of her relationship. That's not something I would be upset about.'
"And do you know he immediately apologized, got a little tongue-tied even, and then put his arms around me to give me a hug!
"And I INSTANTLY felt better, whereas before, I would have been angry and not spoken to him for the rest of the day. Before, I would have just harbored resentment and built up an emotional wall.
"So then it all clicked: If you want men to embrace you, treat you like a woman, get the love you want so much, have the courage to speak from your heart. Tell them when you're hurting in a slow soft voice.
"It makes all the difference in the world, and ultimately draws men near to you. LITERALLY he rushed to grab me! And I felt so much happier and closer to him.
"The missing piece that Bob Grant gives made me cry when I read it. It is sure to affect other women the same way."
These emails are real emails that were sent to author Mimi Tanner in response to her recommendation of Bob Grant's books.
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